Me Talk Dirty? Once You Get Used to the Idea It Can Be Super Exciting!
Yes, nice girls can talk dirty too, and they can be really good at it! It's something that can drive your partner absolutely over the edge ladies, especially if it's something totally out of character for you. This can really knock his horny little socks off!
Now I know some of you are saying, "There is no way on this green earth that I'm going to do that." OR "It's really embarrassing and I'd just feel plain stupid." Or "I'm way too shy for something like that."
Unless you want it to be downright nasty (and some of you might – if so you go girl), talking dirty doesn’t have to be what you might be thinking. It could be something as mild as telling him what you’re wearing under your clothing or saying something like “I love the way you kiss me there.” You don’t necessarily have to use “dirty” words.
Other ideas include (from mild to wild(ish)):
- “You’re so unbelievably sexy to me.”
- “It turns me on when you look at me that way.”
- Walk away and turn around suddenly, wink, and say “You were checking me out just now weren’t you”?
- “I need to get naked with you right now.”
- “I love your butt in those jeans.”
- “Tell me what you want me to do to you.”
- “I can’t stop thinking about what you do with your tongue.”
- It feels sooooooo good when you do ___________ to me.”
- “I’m thinking about what we did last night. I want more of that.”
Once you’ve tried some of the tamer phrases, you just might find that you enjoy it and you’ll become bolder and eventually start throwing around the “bad” words like a real pro. You'll be a real talk dirty to me queen – Woo Hoo!
Where Should You Be When You Talk Dirty?
It’s most fun to try this when he’s least expecting it. I just love the element of surprise. When the last thing he’s expecting to hear is “This is going to be the hottest night of your life”, that’s when it’s the best time to say it. You might mention it as he’s walking out the door for work, when you’re at a movie or dinner, at your kids’ baseball game (of course you’ll be whispering), in the car or even at a party you’re at together.
If talking dirty is something new and intimidating for you, here are some ways for even you shy gals to give this a whirl. If you’re worried you’re going to sound funny or cheesy or start blushing if you do it face-to-face, then start with sending him a naughty text message or an e-mail. Actually I think this is the best method if you have a partner who is slightly on the conservative side and you’re not sure how he’s going to react. Seeing a text message or an e-mail will certainly be a pleasant surprise but will give him time to collect his thoughts before he responds (he might be doing some blushing of his own). You might even get a great flirty/dirty conversation going back and forth. How fun for both of you!
Then you can work your way up to calling his phone when you know he can’t answer it and leave him delightful naughty voicemail messages. There’s nothing like hearing your voice on the other end telling him how much you want him and what you’re going to do to him when he gets home. If you’re not sure what exactly to say, you might want to find an erotic story from a book or magazine and read him the juiciest parts. This could possibly bring on a little adventure in “phone sex” as well.
Talk Dirty to Him By Writing Him a "Bad-Libs" Letter.
Here’s another fun way to initiate dirty talk. It's based on the “Mad-Lib” theme but it's a naughty mad-lib (or a "Bad-Lib"). It's a letter where you fill in the blanks and then put it somewhere that he's going to find it unexpectedly. Put your letter in an envelope and either place it by his shaver so he'll see it in the morning or slip it into his briefcase before he goes to work (you can even fax or e-mail the letter to him once he gets to work). If you're feeling super bold and playful and are eager to see his reaction when he reads it, wait and give it to him at dinner (it's especially exciting when you're at a restaurant). It really builds the anticipation and expectation for what's in store later on in the evening. Click here for a printable version of two different Bad-Lib letters. You can use them exactly “as-is” or change them up to fit your personality. These are also fun to use as games at adult parties.
The most important thing about talking dirty is that you work within your (and your partner’s) comfort zones especially at first and just HAVE FUN WITH IT! The main thing is that you just give it a try. Watch your relationship go to a whole new level. It will be an adventure. I think you’ll be glad that you did.
