Learn to Do a Sultry Strip Tease
Yes Ladies We All Can Do It

Have you ever given any thought to doing a sexy little strip-tease dance for your partner? Maybe you’ve seen a movie or TV show where a woman has done one for her lover. Maybe you have a girlfriend who recently did one for her boyfriend and then shared all the glorious details with you. Or maybe your partner has even dropped hints or come right out and said “Hey that would be hot if you’d do a strip tease for me.” Well, ladies, if you’re looking to try something “different” (and we all know what a little variety does for your relationship), this can be so fun and adventurous, you’ll be asking yourself why you didn’t do it sooner.

The reason I say that any one of us gals can do a sexy strip-tease, is because if I can anybody can. I’m a real klutz, I’m soooooo not graceful and I have big feet. I honestly have no rhythm whatsoever (I’m a horrible dancer – unless I’ve had too much to drink – and then I think I’m fabulous). You know how that goes. But, after months of hesitating, I finally decided, okay, I’m going to try it. He’s either going to love it or he’s going to laugh his butt off (which is just fine – I love to laugh – and at least I’d be proud of myself for giving it a try). Plus, I’m a firm believer that sex should not always be serious – a little humor every now and then is refreshing. Well, I can tell you I had almost as much fun preparing for and building up to my big strip tease debut as I did actually doing it. What a blast I had and I won’t go into the details of how much my boyfriend loved it! Let’s just say we didn’t actually go to sleep that night until about 2:00 a.m.

Okay, I know some of you are thinking right now that you would NEVER be caught dead doing a strip tease because you’re just not sexy or beautiful enough. Maybe you think you need to lose 10 (or 40) pounds; maybe you’re worried about your saggy butt, your stretch marks or your one boob that’s bigger than the other. Well, guess what? None of us are perfect and this is all about ATTITUDE ladies. It’s all about tapping into your inner sexual self.

Sexual Self – What Does That Mean Exactly?

The sexual self comes from a person’s brain and from their heart. It’s expressed in thoughts and actions (and attitude) and is so much powerful than the physical appearance. I’ve had several men tell me that a physically drop-dead gorgeous woman is not necessarily a sexy and sensual woman. Most of all, our sexual self is expressed in how we think about and how we care for ourselves. I promise you that it’s not important if you’re thin or fat, young or old, blonde or brunette. It’s how you project self-assuredness and, once again, your ATTITUDE. You are beautiful no matter what and you do have what it takes to blow his mind!

Okay I’ve Decided to Give it a Try – What Next?

I think proper planning and preparation beforehand are essential to you feeling more comfortable and less nervous with what you’re about to do. I personally told my boyfriend that he was going to get a real treat – something he’d never gotten before – in about 2 weeks. That was the date of our anniversary and the reason I told him that far in advance was because I wanted time to plan and organize what I was going to do and I also wanted time to practice (remember I’m not a natural performer). I came out and told him because I knew if I did, I wouldn’t be able to chicken out and it was terribly exciting for him to wonder what was going to happen. He kept asking for clues but I gave him not one. His anticipation build-up was really fun to watch.

You might want to take another approach and just surprise him one night when he gets home from work. Have him wait in the living room for awhile and walk out of the bedroom looking absolutely "crazy-sexy-hot". If you’re more of a spontaneous (and probably more graceful) person this would be a fun way to get the evening started as well. However your pre-planning is still important so you’ll feel like a million bucks when you’re on your “stage”.

Strip Tease Preparation - Let’s Get Started

Let’s talk about music first. Just imagine for a minute that you actually are a stripper in a gentlemen’s club. What kinds of songs would you pick to show off your personality the best? Do you prefer slow, old-school make-out songs, like “Let’s Get It On” or “Sexual Healing” (by Marvin Gaye)? Or maybe you’d do better with something a little more upbeat like “Toxic” or “Gimme More” by Britney Spears. It doesn’t really matter as long as you like the song and it puts you into “sexy” mode and you find it easy to dance and strip tease to. Try several songs and practice in front of the mirror and watch how your body moves.

Now let’s pick out a persona for your new, sexy, stripper self. Why would you want to do this? Well, for a couple of reasons. You get to be somebody else for the night which helps you bring out your inner “actress”. Plus it’s exciting for you and might even make it easier to pull off your performance. Did you know that Beyonce has said that she needs to call on her other persona, “Sasha Fierce”, to bring herself out of her shyness and get up on stage and be the sizzling sexy diva that we all see when she performs! So, see, even drop-dead, gorgeous, beautiful-body having Beyonce has insecurities. Who knew?

In addition, what a treat for your partner! He’ll get to see you in an entirely new way, being a different, hot, sexy woman than he’s ever seen you be in the past. What a way to knock his socks off! You might even want to change your name for the evening to something like Lola, Candy or Coco. Later on down the road, you can refer back to your stripper name when you’re feeling a little frisky and want to let him know. You can say something like “Candy might be coming over tonight – so be ready.” The possibilities are endless.

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The next thing on your list is to pick out a costume for your strip tease. I think this part is the most fun. Every one of us has an inner naughty nurse, kinky cowgirl, slutty sailor girl or loose librarian, for example. This is where you can let your imagination run wild and play it up as much as you want to. You might even want to think about wearing a cool wig so you look like a completely different person. Think about using more dramatic make-up that night (maybe some red lipstick or false eyelashes).

Make sure you wear enough items to make your strip tease last for awhile. The average song is about 3 minutes long so don’t walk out onto your “stage” in ONLY a bra and panties. For example, put your hair up in a clip so you can take it down when you’re ready. You can even do this in a wig if it’s long enough. If you’re a librarian for the night, make sure you wear some glasses. If you’re a cowgirl, nurse or sailor girl, wear the appropriate hats (hats are sexy and you can use them in your act). If you’re a school-girl put your hair in pigtails and wear a knee-hi socks over your stockings.

Feather boas are a stripper girl’s best friend. They can be used with every kind of costume, especially after the clothes come off and you’re left in your sexy little underthings. They can give you coverage where and when you want it. Your boa is also fun during your strip tease to use on your partner. You can wrap it around him and then slowly pull one side of the boa, letting it tickle his neck, chest or thighs. This is especially fun when he’s blindfolded (but we’ll get to that later).

This is a good time to get out (or go buy) the thigh-high stockings and garter belt to have on underneath your costume. Thigh-high stockings that reach the very top of your thighs are the most flattering. They make your legs look longer and you won’t be standing there with the stockings cutting into the meaty part of your thighs worrying about your skin spilling over. You can even cut/shorten and sew your garter belt straps so they meet the top part of your thighs where your stockings end. This simple fix does wonders for the leg line!

Wear the sexiest bra and panties/g-string you can find. They don’t have to match exactly but they have to be something different than your every-day underwear and they absolutely must make you feel sexy. Being sure your bra fits correctly will keep it from cutting into your skin and making you self-conscious about your skin bulging out around the elastic.

Last but not least I cannot say enough about shoes! Find the highest heel you can manage without falling down. This is not necessarily a time to worry about the comfort of the shoes. After all you’re only going to have them on for an hour or two (if that). If you can handle 6-inch stripper heels then by all means get them. Men go absolutely crazy over sexy high-heels and you’ll love the way they make your legs look (longer and slimmer). If they’re open-toed make sure your toenails are perfectly manicured and painted a “hot” color like dark red or something metallic (especially if this color is not your norm). Pay attention to the little details like that.

Strip Tease Props You Might Consider Using

Your props can be as elaborate as an in-home stripper pole or as simple as hats, gloves, flowers, balloons, edible body powder, silky scarves, feather ticklers, and even blowing bubbles.

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Dress Rehearsal

Yes, it’s absolutely essential that you do a dress rehearsal in front of the mirror with your music on. You need to see how easy (or not) it’s going to be to get out of your clothes and you need to test the timing to make sure your dance lasts for the entire song. Again, remember the average song is about 3 minutes which doesn’t sound like a long time but I can guarantee it’s going to seem really long if you climb out of your clothes too quickly. Practice undressing very slowly and make every second count. Make sure you tease, tease, tease and tease some more. For instance, slip the bra off your shoulder and then pop it back up again and do a little spin and laugh.

Have a glass of wine (or whatever you prefer) if necessary to relax you. Of course only have a little. Falling flat on your face is not very sexy and you could injure yourself. The more relaxed you feel the better you’ll do. Practice your moves. If you don’t have many moves, you may want a purchase a “Stripping” instructional DVD or you can Google “How to Strip” and get some information online. There are also YouTube videos that can give you ideas and some of them are very entertaining to watch. You can also get costume and music ideas from these as well.

Keep reminding yourself how beautiful and sexy and bold you are to be doing this. Also remember this is going to be your special night and you’re going to be in full control and have all the power. He’s going to have to follow your rules. I can’t tell you how empowering and liberating this is.

Your Big Strip Tease Debut!

Okay, the night of your show has arrived! Make sure you’ve set the scene beforehand. Use of low lighting and softly-scented candles can make you feel more confident and give your skin a beautiful glow. Make sure the room is neat and tidy and you might want to make sure there are lots of fluffy pillows around for after your dance. You’ll need a chair for him to sit in because you’re going to tie his hands to it to make sure he’s a good boy during your dance. Use the type of chair (maybe a kitchen chair) that you can walk all the way around and still be able to touch him. He’s not allowed to touch you but you can do anything you like to him (except hurt him of course). Remember you’re the one in control. He has to follow your rules. Trust me, this is a good thing. He’ll go absolutely crazy with desire before it’s all over.

Okay, it’s time. You walk into the room doing the “Stroll” which is a sultry strut around the room in a couple of circles. Look him straight in the eyes and don’t look away. Seat him in his chair, remove his shirt, bring his arms behind him and tie them with a silk scarf or some type of bondage cuffs that you have ready and waiting. Walk over to the stereo and turn on the music. Turn around, again look him in the eye and pose for a second. Let him drink in the sight of you. He’s going to be really surprised and excited. Maintain this eye contact at all times during the dance. I know this is difficult sometimes but, honestly, it will have him salivating and squirming in his chair. Remember YOU ARE SEXY and YOU ARE IN CONTROL. If you feel it and believe it, it’s going to come across that way.

Slowly, start moving and grinding your hips to the music as if you’re doing a figure 8 motion. Stand up straight with your feet shoulder length apart and image there’s a pencil in your vagina. Use the pencil to draw the shape and other circles on the floor. A fabulous, yet simple stripper tip is to KEEP YOUR TOES POINTED. Dancers do this to maximize the sexiness of the leg and foot. Feel the beat of the music and just let it move through your body. Don’t over-think it. Use shoulder rolls, head swings and some of the other new moves you’ve learned. Remember to remove each item of clothing slowly, slowly, slowly. If you really want to drive him wild, touch your own body, especially in the places you know he likes to touch you. Smile teasingly and give him a wink. Keep up that eye contact and notice how he responds. He is going to be one very “turned-on” man.

A great move is to turn around with your back facing him and start unbuttoning your top (if it has buttons or hooks). Turn your head, look back at him and smile. As you continue to unbutton, let one side of your garment slide down to expose your shoulder. Hold that for a moment before removing it completely and letting it slowly drop to the floor. Be careful not to trip over any clothing. It’s very sexy to arch your back when removing clothing too (especially skirts).

You might want to strut over to him in-between removing garments and lean in real close but not touch him. Or go around behind him, lean your body over him so that just your hair tickles his skin. You can act like you’re going to kiss him but then lightly push his head back instead. Remember, it’s all about the tease and you are the one in control.

I think it’s best to leave your shoes and stockings on until after you’ve removed everything else. When it’s time, remove your shoes, walk over to his chair, look him in the eye, and put one leg up on the chair between his thighs. Lightly run your hand up and down your leg and then up and down one of his legs or his chest. By now, he’s going to be wishing so hard that he could touch you but he can’t because his hands are tied. Unhook your stocking, slowly roll it down your leg and gently remove it and let it slide to the ground. I’m getting excited just thinking about it.

If you still have some time to kill you might want to blindfold him, dust your skin with some flavored body powder and give him a lap dance. Get so close to him that he can actually taste your skin. So far this is the only way he’s allowed to touch you so he’ll be very eager. Then you can slowly untie him from the chair and I guess I don’t have to tell you what will transpire from there. I know you can figure that all out but just as a warning, you are going to have one pretty excited man on your hands. Let’s hope you got plenty of sleep the night before because you’re going to need the energy.

Remember, that a great strip-tease is a celebration of the human body and is a very personal and intimate gift to your partner. You are giving them permission to see you in all your glory, to drink you up and explore your beauty with their senses. More importantly, it is liberating to you and will do wonders for your inner sexual self. Why not give it a try? Remember you’re beautiful and sexy!