Foreplay And Women
The Two Go Hand in Hand
A Must-Read For Men

For women foreplay is critical to successful and enjoyable lovemaking. Of course, we have those times where we're ready to "hit the bedroom running" - leaving a trail of clothes behind us but for the most part, we enjoy (and need) something "extra" with our sex play. Physically, we need some prolonged stimulation in order to become sexually aroused and to have more satisfying orgasms. Emotionally we need it to feel connected to our partner thus making the whole experience more gratifying for us. For women our most powerful sex organ is our brain.

There is an actual science connected to why foreplay is so important for women (and even men). It's a proven scientific fact that slow gentle touching causes lots of good chemicals to be released into our bodies, including those that get us ready for sex. Ocytocin is one of these chemicals. It's created when we are gently embraced and caressed lovingly like our mothers did for us when we were little. We can sense that this touch comes from the heart. The best orgasms and health benefits women get from sex result in having a reliable, trustworthy source of affection and love.

What is Foreplay Exactly?

At one time men believed it was pretty much a job - something they had to do in order to get their woman to agree to have sex (how romantic is that). It's not that they were being insensitive, necessarily, they just didn't understand what women meant when they asked for more foreplay in their relationship. However, men are starting to understand more of what women need both physically and emotionally to become stimulated and be put into the "mood". Some women are becoming more confident about communicating their needs and wants to their partners which is making a difference.

Foreplay is the fine art of titillation. It's more of a psychological mindset than any set of specific actions. The men who really "get it" understand that there are amazing benefits in it for them. It's a WIN-WIN. If a man takes the time to really understand what makes his partner tick, he's going to have better sex himself. If she's satisfied with her sexual experience, she's going to make sure he's "taken care" of as well. And guys, isn't it a lot more fun to have sex with someone who's really into you than someone who's going over her grocery list in her head while you're trying to make love to her?

The best lovers are men (and women) who are generous in bed. They find pleasure in seeing their partner excited and being satisfied (and having great orgasms). They ask questions and use everything available to them to help make sex hotter.

Women absolutely love foreplay (emphasis on the word "play" ) which consists of caressing, cuddling, kissing, touching, giggling (yes giggling), slow undressing, staring into each other's eyes, more kissing, rubbing, nibbling, squeezing and whispering into each other's ears. Oh and more kissing! P.S. they also LOVE to be told how sexy and beautiful they are. Kissing should not be limited to her mouth either. Her neck, shoulders, earlobes, back, cleavage, the inside of her arm at her elbow, her fingertips, palms, and even the soles of her feet all have densely-packed nerve endings that respond well to touch. These are called her "erogenous zones". However, the entire surface of our skin could actually be referred to as an "e-zone" because all forms of pleasure during foreplay are transmitted through the skin.

Some people like taking their foreplay to the next level which might include licking, sucking, spanking, wrestling, dirty talk, oral sex, use of sex toys, biting, hair tugging, bondage, or rough play as long as you're both comfortable and have a secure level of trust with each other. It all builds excitement and anticipation before you actually have intercourse.

Talking and communicating your thoughts and feelings during foreplay makes it even hotter. Let each other know how you like it when the other does that to you. Those little moans of pleasure will certainly crank it up several degrees as well. Plus, if he learns what you like he'll know what to do next time.

Remember, there is no perfect way to engage in foreplay. It's all about understanding what your partner likes and dislikes. Some women may love to be slapped on their ass while others will look at you like you've lost your marbles if you were to try it. What's important is that you make the effort to find out what pleases her. Just the fact that you're interested in making the effort and trying things to make her happy is a "turn-on" in itself.

Where and When Should Foreplay Start?

Sam Kinison, the comedian, used to say, "Make her cum twice before she even sees your dick." It makes quite the impression on a woman if you indulge her with lots of foreplay and give her an orgasm or two before you even get your belt undone. Try it and see!

If foreplay is something a man is not familiar with (you know who you are) it can be confusing to know where to begin. Try thinking back to the kind of sexual fun you had BEFORE you were actually getting the "real thing" - perhaps with your first girlfriend. Remember what it was like to have long make-out sessions, complete with hot and heavy petting. You kissed, you groped, you explored with your hands. You may even have humped through your clothes. Your heart was racing and your sexual anticipation was so intense you felt, at times, like you might literally explode.

For a lot of women, this slow buildup that comes with heavy petting can lead to very hot sex and some amazing orgasms for both she and her partner. The next time you have sex, try slowing it way down. Leave your clothes on for an extra ten to fifteen minutes and see how excited you can get each other without removing them. Then, when it comes time to start actually removing pieces of clothing, again do it very s-l-o-w-l-y. Especially, guys, when you are removing hers. Remember the more time you take and the more touching and kissing you do, the better results you will get. Remember to tell her how HOT she is. You can't ever say this too much. Slow down and watch her become "putty" in your hands. All your extra effort is going to be rewarded with delicious, fabulous sex. Try it! Good luck and have fun "fore" -playing.