Anal Sex - It’s Not For Everyone But if You’re Butt Curious Read Here

While anal sex is very enjoyable for some women, others find it completely taboo and consider this area for “exit only” . If even the thought of anal sex makes you shudder in disgust, then it’s most definitely not for you. However, there are other women who have tried it successfully and love everything about it.

Then there are others who haven’t tried it yet but are giving it some thought either because their partner has said that he’d like to try it or because you have a friend who can’t get enough of it and you’re just plain curious to see what that’s all about.

The reason some people love butt sex is because there are many sensitive nerve endings in the anus along with strong muscles that respond well to the kind of pressure and circulation that occurs during anal play. Some women even get the benefits of having their g-spot aroused at the same time (ding-ding double bonus)!

It’s super important to understand that without desire anal sex is not going to be pleasurable. If you just don’t want to do it, then absolutely don’t. Don’t feel pressured into it by your partner if you’re not ready, willing and able. Having anal sex simply to please him is not a good idea. You need to WANT to do it for your own sense of pleasure as well.

Five Things You Need for Successful Anal Sex

Desire - The person receiving anal sex needs to be able to relax and get comfortable. Again, if you’re being pressured into this, it’s not going to be fun for you.

Relaxation - Your sphincter muscles (butt muscles) are a powerful set of muscles. They need to be relaxed in order to receive anal sex. Breathing is one of the best ways to achieve relaxation. In fact, during butt play, taking deep breaths is going to be tremendously helpful in keeping you relaxed. Having your partner give you a massage or warming you up with some foreplay is a great idea as well and will only add positive feelings to your experience as a whole. In other words, don’t just go straight for the butt.

Communication - Be aware and communicate with all of your senses. If you’re receiving butt sex, you need to tell your partner what is feeling good and what is not. I don’t recommend that you use anal de-sensitizers that are available in sex shops. You need to be able to feel if and when it starts to hurt and tell your partner to STOP. If you’re using anal de-sensitizers (or if you’re intoxicated) you don’t have a full grasp of your senses and you can injure yourself. Communicate with words like “slower” , “more shallow” , “deeper” , or “hold still for a moment” . This way you can tell your partner what you need exactly and it can also add to the sexiness of the moment.

Lubrication - Your anal area does not self-lubricate, not even sometimes. Use a quality lubricant EACH AND EVERY time you engage in anal play. It doesn’t matter what you’re inserting back there (penis, fingers or toys) this is always the case. NOTE: The lubrication that a condom comes with does NOT have enough lubrication on it to make anal sex comfortable. Make sure you add more.

Condoms -Cover anything you use up your butt with condoms. It’s VERY IMPORTANT to understand that if you “pull out” of butt play and want to go back to vaginal penetration, change the condom. Also wash your hands, toys and penis as well.

Sex Toys Up Your Butt

Again, the sphincter muscles are very strong and can pull objects up inside. You’ve probably heard the horror stories about people ending up in the emergency room with anything from potatoes, coke bottles, to snakes in their butts. This is not a good situation to find yourself in. There are some wonderful toys that are designed for anal play which can really “rock your world” . The one thing they all have in common is that they have a flared base which stops the toy from being pulled into the anus. Make sure you use the appropriate toys for “back door” use. Contact Me Here For Some Good Recommendations.

Can Women Have an Orgasm From Anal Sex?

Yes, yes yes!! Some women at my parties have told me that they’ve had explosive, “peel me off the ceiling” orgasms from anal sex alone. Others have told me they enjoy it but also need to have some clitoral stimulation at the same time they’re receiving butt sex.

An orgasm is a series of contractions in your pelvic muscles. The sphincter muscles are a part of this wonderful muscle group. Whether a woman is experiencing a clitoral orgasm or a g-spot orgasm, her sphincter muscles always contract along with all of the other pelvic muscles. Stimulating these muscles can pull enough blood and oxygen into a woman’s pelvis to inspire an orgasm. An orgasm achieved by anal sex may feel more deep and drawn out than a clitoral orgasm and combining clitoral stimulation with butt play can be the most earth-shattering sensation of all!

Are My Butt Muscles Going to Get Loose if I do This Too Much?

This is a fabulous question and this concern is another reason people tend to shy away from using their butts for sex play. The answer is no! In fact, as long as you’re doing it safely (relaxing , using lots of lube, stopping if it hurts, and not doing it while you’re drunk or high), it can actually be healthy for your sphincter muscles. It relaxes them and brings circulation through them. It’s like going to the gym for your butt! It’s a good thing.

Is There a Recommended Position for Anal Sex?

A lot of people engage in butt sex doggy-style (from behind). However, you can also try it on your back, legs spread and knees up (missionary-style with a twist). You might want to try leaning over a piece of furniture. Or have your partner sit in a chair and lower yourself down on him. Again, you need to see what works for you and your partner.

This is a video from Ducky Doolittle, a wonderful Sex Educator who talks candidly about anal sex. She’s very interesting and educational to listen to. Enjoy!